But kid’s emotions are real and need to be respected – even the ones that are inconvenient. And it’s true that sometimes behaviour may not be acceptable. Time out teaches kids that their emotions and behaviours aren't acceptable.Kids become frightened that their parent will not love them if they behave in a way that is ‘bad’. Very young children may fear parents will leave them. This drives a wedge into the parent/child relationship at the worst possible time – right when they need you most. Time out teaches children that a parent's love is conditional. Conditional love creates anxiety.But does it really teach? And if so, what does it teach? What does time out teach? Psychologists and parenting experts almost universally claim that time out is the most effective way to teach our kids. Some of the most popular parenting programs in Australia (and the world) are based on time out. After that period of time, the child will supposedly be remorseful and will also have learned his or her lesson. Time out works like this: a child does something that is against the rules, so the child’s parents punish the child by telling him/her to sit somewhere free of distractions for a set amount of time to think about what was wrong with the behaviour. 'Time out' is a preferred method of discipline for many parents, but does it really benefit our children? Dr Justin Coulson did some research, and you might be surprised with what he found.
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